So. Friday night was worse. My dear husband spent most of the night on the floor, "making sure our son didn't get away". It didn't matter how many times I said he was asleep, in his crib. I was continually told that if I wanted to let our son "get away" it was fine, but he wasn't going to. At one point I woke up and he was sitting on the floor talking to our son in the playpen. It was pretty cute, he was having a great time. Except it was the middle of the night, and our son wasn't in the playpen. He was in his room, asleep in the crib.
So, yesterday I forced the issue. I told him that we had to talk about the stress, because I care about him and also because I was exhausted! And it turns out I had it completely wrong! Yes, some stress was work related, but not to do with what I thought it was. And he was mad. At me! Me!!!! Because I didn't want him to play wii (or play with the wii?) every waking hour he was home from work. And he kept that from me for 3 days, and kept me up because of it for 2 nights!!!
He's forgiven of course, but sheesh!
(i'm forgiven too)
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Hehehe - my boyfriend got an Xbox 360 from Christmas, and we've had those same issues.. :) :) :)
Does he get mad at you for bringing it up?
Yes, yes he does. The first couple of weekends we had his daughter after he got it, he was playing it and practically ignoring her (and she's 3 so she KNOWS he's ignoring her) and leaving me to do 100% of the parenting of his child. I tried talking about it with him rationally (in our case, a bit worse, because it's not *our* child, it's HIS!) and he just kind of shushed me, and then I finally said, well you know what, I am not her parent, you are, and had to refuse to "baby sit" her and finally he got the hint and it stopped... It wasn't just not spending time with his daughter either, he wasn't helping with the "chores" or anything! Now he will still play for hours here and there, but it's never when his daughter is over, and he does say "can I go play xbox for a couple hours now" and he's not really "asking" permission, but just checking that there's nothing that should be done.. I still think he plays it too much hehe, but at least it's not constant. We had to have quite the fight about it to get it resolved though!
(FYI - I did not get him the xbox for xmas, hehehe, damn inlaws!)
:)
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